I was finally able to send my book off for the final edit. I actually received some really good feedback. Writing has been a passion of mine for as along as I can remember. I've written all kinds of books from children's books to thriller and suspense. I've even written scripts. However, I've never done anything with the work. I guess I just never felt as though I really had a voice and I thought no one would be interested. Now, I no longer feel that way. I felt like writing this book would help someone. It would also be a way for people to get to know me a little better and see where a came from and how I was able to keep going. So here is chapter two. Let me know what you think.
Support or Lack Of
I don’t think people realize how important it is to have a support system in place during pregnancy. Many people are so used to seeing the positive happy side of pregnancy, however that is not a reality for everyone. Not everyone is always happy about being pregnant. Some people feel ashamed and alone. There are some people out there who are in certain situations in their lives and just don’t know what to do. Not everyone has access to the love and support that they need nor are they sure how to get it.
It can be hard when you’re alone or when the people you thought would support you and be there for you aren’t. This was indeed a tough period for me. Sure, the father of my child was there but at that time I still wanted that love and support from my family and from most importantly my mom. She eventually came around however she made a point every chance she got to remind me of how disappointed she was in me and how fat I was getting.
I’m sure she was angry with me. She had become pregnant at a young age too. She didn’t get support from her mother either and ended up leaving home. It’s interesting how history repeats itself. I figured if anyone knew how badly support was needed, it would have been her. Maybe she did know, but maybe she just didn’t know how to give it, maybe she didn’t know how because she was too upset and too ashamed. This caused me to be ashamed as well. What child wants to disappoint their parents? I remember seeing other pregnant women with their mothers at doctor’s appointments. I longed for that, but I then realized I would never get it. I would have to figure this out on my own.
What many people fail to understand is that support during pregnancy is just as important as postpartum support. There are changes in hormones in your body that can take your mind through some drastic changes in the way you think. You can go from feeling great to feeling overwhelmed and completely lost. It’s so important to maintain mental and emotional health during pregnancy. If not, you increase the risk for pregnancy complications. Everything that goes on with you can affect your unborn child. Working your way through that by yourself can be and is a task.
However, it can be done. I couldn’t find support from the particular people that I thought I would but there were people who helped me. I will forever be grateful to them. Having support during your pregnancy can improve your health, welfare, and the way you look at and live life. If you find that you can’t get support from your family or partner there are ways to get the help you need and please don’t hesitate to ask for it. Don’t walk around being embarrassed or ashamed. No matter what anyone says about you or to you, you are AMAZING. Always remember that.
Pregnancy Health Coach