If you haven't had the chance please check out my previous blog. I go into detail about my labor and birth experience. I also talk about my postpartum hemorrhage incident as well. I will also be doing an video so be on the look out! Now, with that being said, we've made it through our first month! Wooohoooo! You would think I was a pro at this right, I mean considering the fact that this is baby girl number four. I can say that there are some things that I have been able to use with each of my girls that have helped me but there are some things that have worked for one baby and didn't work for the other. At the end of the day, you have to take the time to learn your baby and try new things. Each baby is definitely different.
Sleep.....Not so much!
This is the one thing that I can say has been the same across the board. NO SLEEP! Okay, maybe I'm being a little dramatic. I would be lying if I said I didn't get any sleep at ALL. It's more like two or three hours of sleep and then it's time to eat, be changed, or snuggle. I am grateful for the few hours I do get but that constant break in sleep, especially if you are used to getting about six plus hours straight starts to bother you. I've noticed that when I'm tired, I'm really grumpy! Another thing I've noticed is that this time I am way more aware. Aware of my feelings and thoughts.
As someone who had issues with postpartum depression with my previous daughter, I made it a point to really pay attention to where I am and what I'm feeling. So far so good. I've had days where I needed a minute to cry because I was just so tired. I've had help though. Dad chips in and so does big sister (she's 16) but somehow it still seems as though mom gets the majority of the load. She's worth it though and the good news is her sisters all started sleeping longer around the three or four month mark. Hopefully she follows right behind them. Fingers crossed! Keeping the faith! I have found that if she is fussy around the time I need to do something like shower or cook, her swing and stroller have been super helpful! I can place her in either one of those and she's out. Also, playing classical music, mainly Mozart, settles her down and it will help her sleep.
Breastfeeding and Gas Problems
I didn't breastfeed my oldest daughter. I was eighteen, young, and I didn't see the need. She grew up to be healthy and happy nonetheless. As I grew older though and more educated on the benefits of breastfeeding I made the decision that I would definitely breastfeed if I had anymore children. Now let me say this, I feel as though sometimes a lot of pressure is put on mothers to breastfeed. Sometimes they are made to feel less than or inadequate if they choose formula over breastmilk. I don't agree with that at all. As long as your baby is taken care of and they are fed, either through breastmilk or formula, then do your thing! We all have to make the best decision as individuals. Don't let anyone else's thoughts or opinions become your own.
Now back to the blog, I started breastfeeding with daughter number two and here I am with daughter number four still going at it. While breastfeeding does offer a lot of benefits, it can seem VERY demanding. There were a lot of times when I felt that this was all I did (or do). Go to sleep, wake up, whip out the breast, feed the baby, and repeat. I've learned to somewhat remedy this. I pump and have dad or big sister feed her so that gives me a little break. But at night it comes in handy. I don't have to get up and make any bottles. The milk is already ready!
An issue baby girl started having around week three was GAS! and it makes her so uncomfortable and I've felt so bad for her. Since newborn's digestive systems are still developing, it can sometimes make gas really painful. We've started doing little bicycle turns with her legs as well as tummy and back rubs. I've tried Gripe water which didn't work like it did with my second daughter. She struggled with gas as well and Gripe water saved my life so I just knew it work this time but nope! She projectile puked that stuff up both times I tried to give it to her. I was able to use the Little Remedies Gas Relief Drops and they have worked wonders! I've also taken some things out of my diet like dairy. It seems to have helped out as well. Although I'm missing some of those foods, it isn't about me at the moment.
What our day is like.
Our day has somewhat fallen into a bit of a routine now. She wakes up in the morning between 6:00 and 7:00 for a feeding and she will stay up for an hour looking around and exploring. She has even started "baby talk" so we have small conversations. Around 8 she is ready to go back to sleep so sometimes I will rock her and sometimes just giving her the pacifier will work just fine and she is out. This is the time when I get up and shower. I know I have about 30 to 45 minutes before she starts squirming around. Let's say I've learned to take quicker showers. Between 9 or so she is up and ready to be held. Usually it's diaper change time and feeding time. After that she is out again, usually. We've been taking big sister to work this past week so the car ride has her out until 11:30 or noon. Which I can appreciate.
I can't really nap because I have two other girls at home with me as well so once we're up, I'm up for the rest of the day. I take care of little things around the house, research, and relax until it's time to cook dinner (unless daddy is bringing food home for us). This is when the stroller comes in handy. I can feed her and place her in there and she is set until I'm done cooking or I feel like moving her. Once her dad comes home, he eats, and he spends time with her (around 6). This is my time to spend with the other girls just one on one or do something I need to do. Around 8 it's food time. Either he will feed her or I will feed her, it just depends on where we are and what we're doing at the time. Bed time (she gets a bath every three to four days) is usually around 11 PM. Once the lights go out she understands that it's bedtime. When she wakes up 1:30, and 4ish, she eats and goes right back to sleep. After that it's our 6 am wake up and we do it all over again.
How do I feel?
Honestly I feel great. Some days are way easier than others but for the most part I am feeling well. It's been one heck of a year. Dealing C-19 and pregnancy was quite interesting. But so far my family and I have been protected and provided for. This is what I'm grateful for. I find it interesting that I will be able to tell baby girl four that she was born during a Pandemic. We made it through labor and delivery and I recovered from one of the most frightening events in my life (postpartum hemorrhage). We made it!
Until next time, I'm sending you all peace, love and light.
Certified Health Coach (Pregnancy and Postpartum Support)